Hello everyone, welcome back to our channel!

I’m Riya, and this is my mother, Ami.

For those who don’t know, Ami is a certified life coach, parenting expert, NLP counselor, and even a memory trainer. With such a diverse background, today we’re simplifying something very important—

👉 Parenting at its most fundamental level.

What Parenting Really Means

Most people think parenting is about:

• What to do

• What not to do

• How to discipline

• How to handle children

But in reality…

👉 Parenting is much deeper than actions.

According to Ami, parenting is:

• 50% – Who you are as a person

• 25% – Your relationship with your partner

• 25% – Your relationship with your child

Yes, you read that right.

The biggest part of parenting has nothing to do with the child directly.

You Can Only Give What You Have

A simple truth:

👉 You can only give what you already have within you.

If you are:

• Happy

• Peaceful

• Emotionally balanced

That is what your child will receive.

But if you are:

• Stressed

• Reactive

• Unsettled

That energy transfers too.

Emotions vs Reactions – The Key Difference

It is completely natural to feel emotions.

👉 Anger is natural
👉 Frustration is natural

But what matters is:

❗ Your reaction should not be emotional

There is a difference between:

• Feeling an emotion

• Expressing it destructively

Shouting, throwing things, or reacting impulsively does not solve problems—it only creates more.

The Mindset Shift: Think About the Outcome

One powerful habit:

Before reacting, ask yourself:

👉 “What impact will this have on my child?”

This shift—from reaction to outcome—changes everything.

Reacting vs Responding

❌ Reacting:

• Instant

• Emotional

• Uncontrolled

✅ Responding:

• Thoughtful

• Intentional

• Outcome-driven

The goal is not to suppress emotions,
but to channel them constructively.

The Power of Pause

One simple yet life-changing technique:

👉 Pause

When you feel triggered:

• Stop

• Breathe

• Drink water

• Take a moment

Then:
👉 Craft your response consciously

This small pause creates massive change.

What NOT To Do in Parenting

Avoid:

• Shouting

• Hitting

• Throwing objects

• Aggressive body language

Because these actions:
👉 Leave emotional scars for life

A child who is hit or shouted at often feels:

• Unworthy

• Powerless

• Hurt

And most importantly:
👉 Disconnected

Respect Boundaries

Every individual—including a child—has personal boundaries.

Crossing those boundaries through anger or physical reactions:
👉 Damages trust permanently

Understand the Root Cause

Instead of reacting to behavior, ask:

👉 “Why is my child behaving this way?”

Common situations:

• Tantrums

• Lying

• Not studying

• Talking back

These are not the problem—
👉 They are symptoms

The real solution lies in:
👉 Understanding the root cause

Parenting Is a Role, Not Your Entire Life

One powerful perspective:

👉 Parenting is a role—not your entire identity

You are also:

• A professional

• A partner

• An individual

• A human with your own journey

When you live a balanced and fulfilling life,
you naturally become a better parent.

Work on Yourself First

To improve parenting:

• Practice meditation

• Join activities you enjoy

• Build a supportive environment

• Stay emotionally balanced

Because:

👉 When you are better, everything around you improves

The Role of Both Parents

The relationship between parents plays a huge role.

👉 The best gift you can give your child is:
A respectful relationship between parents

Children learn from:

• How you talk

• How you behave

• How you respect each other

Alignment Matters

Both parents should be aligned on:

• Values

• Discipline

• Freedom

• Goals for the child

If not aligned:
👉 Seek help (counselor, mentor, therapist)

Parenting is a shared journey.

Children Are a Blank Slate

When a child is born:
👉 Their belief system is empty

What fills it?

• Your words

• Your behavior

• Their environment

Children absorb everything.

Environment Shapes the Child

• Early years → Parents have the biggest influence

• Growing years → Friends & environment increase influence

But till age 14–15:
👉 Parents are the strongest influence

Your Thoughts Also Matter

Even if you don’t say it…

👉 Your thoughts create energy

If you think:

• “My child is not capable”

That energy reflects in your behavior.

Instead, believe:

👉 “My child is capable, unique, and growing”

Every Child Blossoms at Their Own Time

Not every child shines early.

Some:

• Struggle in school

• Excel later in life

Growth is different for everyone.

Your role is:
👉 Provide support, not pressure

What Parents Should Focus On

• Build the right environment

• Use positive language

• Believe in your child

• Be patient

Because:

👉 That is what you can control

When Things Don’t Work

It’s okay to seek help.

• Talk to a counselor

• Ask for guidance

• Learn new approaches

Because parenting is not easy.

Power of Intention

If you truly want to improve:

👉 You will find a way

Just like you find ways for things you really want.

Final Message for Parents

Do your best.

And then:

👉 Trust your child’s journey

Not everything will go perfectly—and that’s okay.

Let Go of Guilt

Many parents feel:
👉 “I could have done better”

But remember:

• Anger is harmful

• Guilt is even more harmful

Instead:
👉 Learn → Improve → Move forward

Conclusion

Parenting is not about perfection.

It’s about:

• Awareness

• Growth

• Patience

• Love

And most importantly:

👉 Becoming a better version of yourself

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