Hello everyone, welcome back to our “Drive With Us” series!
I’m Ami Vikas Mehendi Ratta, and this is my daughter, Riya Mehendi Ratta.
We previously created a similar video, and the response was overwhelming—so many messages, so much love. That’s what inspired us to do this again.
Today, we didn’t even plan a destination for our drive. We simply wanted to have a meaningful conversation—and bring you along with us.
The Topic: Family Peace & Strong Relationships
Today’s conversation revolves around something deeply important:
👉 How do we maintain peace, harmony, and strong relationships within a family?
Because let’s be honest—every family wants happiness.
But very few actually know how to build it intentionally.
The “Ice Cream Technique” – A Simple Yet Powerful Idea
Years ago, when life was hectic—balancing work, family, and responsibilities—I noticed something.
Whenever I got angry or raised my voice, it didn’t solve anything.
It only released my emotions—but never resolved the situation.
That’s when we introduced something unique in our family:
👉 A code word system
We sat together as a family and decided on one word…
And surprisingly, the word we chose was:
🍦 “Ice Cream”
🤯 Why “Ice Cream”?
Because:

• It’s positive

• It’s comforting

• It instantly shifts emotional energy

Unlike words like “calm down” (which can irritate you more),
this word creates a soft emotional interruption.
How the Technique Works
Whenever someone in the family:

• Gets angry

• Raises their voice

• Feels emotionally overwhelmed

Another family member simply says:
👉 “Ice Cream”
That’s the signal.
Not to argue.
Not to react.
But to pause.
What Happens Next?
Instead of continuing the conflict, you:

• Step away from the situation

• Drink water

• Take a short walk

• Sit alone for a few minutes

• Or simply breathe

Because the most important thing is:
👉 Manage your emotions for those first 3–5 minutes
Once that wave passes, clarity returns.
The Result Over Time
Initially, it feels strange—even irritating.
But over time, something beautiful happens:

• Arguments reduce

• Awareness increases

• Emotional control improves

And eventually…
👉 You don’t even need the code word anymore
Because peace becomes your natural response.
The Real Secret Behind It
The technique works—but only when paired with intention.
Because most families:

• Want peace

• Want happiness

But are unaware of how their behavior affects the environment
Peace is not accidental.
It is a conscious choice.
Emotions & Health Are Connected
Here’s something powerful:
When emotional harmony improves,
👉 even physical health improves.
Because:

• Stress reduces

• Emotional balance increases

• Internal well-being improves

Everything in life is interconnected.
Why Anger Feels Uncontrollable
We often say:
👉 “I didn’t want to react… it just happened.”
That’s because emotions work like a flow.
So the first step is:
👉 Break the flow
The second (and deeper) step is:
👉 Understand the root cause
Root Cause Matters More Than Reaction
Ask yourself:

• Why am I getting triggered?

• What is really bothering me?

Because:

• Techniques manage emotions temporarily

• Awareness transforms them permanently

And yes—it’s a journey.
Real Change Takes Time
Habits don’t change overnight.
For example:

• Year 1: You improve a little

• Year 2: You improve significantly

• Year 3: You transform

Consistency creates results.
Does Anger Create Discipline?
Many people believe:
👉 “Shouting or strictness builds discipline”
But the truth is:
1.  It creates fear
2.  It damages relationships
3.  It lowers self-worth
People may obey you—but not respect you.
And once fear disappears, so does the discipline.
A Better Way to Raise Children
Children are not “finished products.”
They are growing individuals on a journey.
So instead of controlling them:
👉 Create the right environment

• No shouting

• No hitting

• More understanding

• More communication

The Power of the Subconscious Mind
Everything a child:

• Sees

• Hears

• Feels

Gets stored in their subconscious mind.
And later…
👉 That subconscious shapes their:

• Behavior

• Decisions

• Confidence

• Identity

Your Words Shape Their Reality
Even small statements like:

• “This is too difficult for you”

• “You don’t have confidence”

Can deeply impact a child’s belief system.
Instead, say:

• “You can do this”

• “I believe in you”

Because:
👉 Change your words → Change their mindset → Change their life
Reprogramming the Mind (NLP)
One powerful method is:
👉 Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
It helps:

• Remove negative patterns

• Build positive thinking

• Reprogram the subconscious mind

Even simple practices like:

• Music

• Performing arts

• Positive reinforcement

Can balance emotions beautifully.
How Confidence is Built
Confidence comes from:

• Feeling loved

• Feeling supported

• Seeing small successes

• Knowing someone believes in you

And the easiest way to build it?
👉 Appreciate your child consistently
Final Message
Every parent wants the best for their child.
But the difference lies in awareness.
Your:

• Words

• Reactions

• Emotions

• Environment

Are shaping your child every single day.
Call to Action
We’d love you to try this:
👉 Use the “Ice Cream Technique” in your family
And tell us:

• Did it work?

• What did you feel?

Also, help us rename this technique—we’d love your creative ideas!
Outro
Thank you so much for watching.
We truly enjoy creating these conversations for you.
If there’s any topic, you’d like us to discuss next,
drop it in the comments below.
See you in the next video